Fear is a common feeling in all people and is a necessary part of oneself, since it helps us to survive. However, many of our fears must be overcome over time, according to the type of fear it is and the age at which it occurs. Infants are undoubtedly the creatures most sensitive to this type of feeling, so special attention must be paid to the circumstances that rob them of tranquility. Once this is done, it is important to help them express what they feel about it and thus, be able to face them and help them overcome them. Below, I share some of the most frequent fears in children, hoping that this will help you identify which ones correspond to your little one.
- The darkness
Darkness is one of the great fears that children suffer, since it involves eliminating from their sight the light with which they can identify the details of things. Teach your little one that you can also play with it and the benefits it has in nature and in itself.
- Sleep alone
This fear can be avoided if you accustom him as a baby to sleep in an exclusive place for him, in this way, he will get used to his own sounds and shadows. But if at first you sleep next to you, then it will cost you more work to come off you.
Be careful in the ways in which you reprimand your child, since two fundamental things will depend on it: first, if the scolding fulfills the mission of correcting it and second, if the way in which you reprimand also reveals the great love you have The most important thing is that your little one does not develop fear towards you and neither, fear of making mistakes.
This is one of the fears that it is hardest for children to confess, so it is very important that you pay special attention to mood changes, morning ailments, excuses for not going to school, or lack of appetite. If he suspects school abuse, he goes to school and talks to the respective authorities.
- To the teacher
If you have suspicions about whether your child is afraid of his teacher, I recommend that you observe if his school performance has decreased, if he shows little enthusiasm when getting up, if he does not want to participate in school events or festivals, etc.
Keep in mind that punishments are only applied to correct some behavior, never to vent problems. That is why you must apply them to sanction a committed offense, making the child see what it was.
- To get lost
Don’t let anyone instill this fear in your child. Let him see that you are always going to be taking care of him, but that for this he must not depart from you. Little by little, teach him what to do if something like this happens in the different places you frequent, such as the self-service store, the street, school, etc.
- Poor school performance
To avoid her fear of having to give you low-graded assessments, express to her that just as she has been taught that she has rights at home, she must also fulfill her obligations, such as study. Urge him to do more of it.
- “rare” affection
Although children do not fully understand what a sexual relationship involves, they may well perceive when physical contact is unpleasant to them. Although it is generally difficult to verbalize it, you can detect if something like this has happened in events such as lack of appetite, frequent nightmares, change of character or sad look.
Try to have a lot of communication with your child so that he can learn to trust you so that he can express both his doubts and his fears, even when it comes to yourself because you are the most special person in his life.